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Reading and understanding body language is critical to your success in a job interview.  Nonverbal communication equips you to understand what interviewers are thinking, helping you tweak your body language to get them to like you … and offer you the job!

1.  The wet fish versus the bone crusher
The handshake tells a story about each of us. Do you shake hands softly? Do you come in from the top and deliver a “bone crusher”?  Aggressive people have firm handshakes; those with low self-esteem have limp, “wet fish” handshakes. 

A great handshake is a three-step process:

·         Make sure your hands are clean and adequately manicured.

·         Ensure hands are warm but free of perspiration.

·         Execute your handshake professionally and politely, with a firm grip and a warm smile.

2.  The eyes have it
What’s considered an appropriate amount of eye contact may vary in different countries.  In North America, 60 percent eye contact is a safe figure — one that can give hiring managers a feeling of comfort about you.  More eye contact than this and you may seem too intense; any less and you risk appearing uninterested.

Eye-contact tips:

·         When you meet the interviewer, look her right in the eyes, then think to yourself, “Wow, so great to finally meet you!”  This will make you smile, and she’ll pick up on your positive mood.  When we look at someone we find interesting, our pupils dilate, a phenomenon the other person instinctively picks up on.

·         During a job interview, keep your eye contact in the upside-down triangle area of your interviewer’s face: from the left eyebrow, to the nose, back up to the right eyebrow.

Warning: Staring at a person’s lips is considered sexual, while looking at their forehead is considered condescending.

3.  Get it straight
Posture is an important thing to master on an interview: Get your posture straight and your confidence will rise with it.  Next time you notice you are feeling a bit down, pay attention to how you are sitting or standing.  Chances are you’ll be slouched over with your shoulders drooping down and inward.  This collapses the chest and inhibits breathing, which can make you feel nervous or uncomfortable. 

4.  Get a “head” of the game
When you want to feel confident and self-assured during an interview, keep your head level, both horizontally and vertically.  Also assume this position when your goal is to be taken seriously.  Conversely, when you want to be friendly and in the listening, receptive mode, tilt your head just a little to one side or the other. 

5.  Arms lend a hand, too
Arms offer clues as to how open and receptive we are, so keep your arms to the side of your body.  This shows you are not scared to take on whatever comes your way.

Quieter people tend to move their arms away from their body less often than outgoing people, who use their arms with big movements.  Keep gestures within the frame of your body, or you’ll risk being seen as out of control.  Avoid the negative action of crossing your arms during the interview.

Here are two common perceptions of hand gestures:

·         Palms slightly up and outward: open and friendly

·         Palm-down gestures: dominant and possibly aggressive

6.  Get a leg up on the competition
Our legs tend to move around a lot more than normal when we are nervous, stressed or being deceptive.  As a result, try to keep them as still as possible during the interview.  You should not cross your legs during a job interview, as it creates a barrier between you and the interviewer and may lead to fidgeting.  When you cross your ankle at the knee, this is known as the “figure four,” and is generally perceived as the most defensive leg cross.

Janine Driver, Lyin’ Tamer, is a body language and deception detection expert, author and contributor to NBC’s “Today Show.”  Janine offers her signature training to Fortune 500 companies across the globe, to give them an edge in the game of life!  For your free mini-course on “Body Language Business Bloopers Successful People Avoid at All Costs” visit www.lyintamer.com today.

Obviously, this is an important issue…and when thousands of people join a group within a couple hours, you know it's a highenergy group.

We could use some help making sure the maximum number of people possible are aware of this group and this issue…can you help volunteer on this group?

Just respond to this thread and we'll be in touch. Thanks.

I'd love to help out. People need to hear about this.
adb

here, ready to work.

Sounds good to me!

thanks folks!

here to help …

Done!

thanks for volunteering! we will be in contact soon.
happy thanksgiving!

If you want any help from this side of the pond, feel free to get in touch.

If you still need help.. Let me know

Just wondered if other folk have difficulty networking online and why? Or am I the only silly duffer that finds it difficult to go about things in the appropriate manner i.e; not madly self promoting and not wasting my own time faffing around achieving nothing. Here's where I have trouble
1. Scheduling the time and sticking to it.
2. Approaching it as a truly valid business activity
3. Know what to say and how to say it without taking 3 years to write 140 characters!
4. Organising the entire activity in a logical manner that is an ongoing strategy.
Cheers
sortersuzy

Suzy…

I too struggled for a moment or two getting my footing in a new world of people where I couldn't just walk up and strike up a chat by complimenting them on their tie or shoes. lol It was hard to get accustomed to.

I think there's alot of tailoring you have to do for whatever your specific goals and your specific products are, but the general action I've taken has been as follows

Facebook LENDS itself NATURALLY to networking, as you've obviously already figured out. But the key to networking in general is staying warm market where you can. So… use the 6degrees of seperation strategy. The "FriendFinder" on the right hand side of your home screen is a WONDERFUL tool for meeting new people. My friend's list has gone from 30 to 200 in a month and a half, and I only hop on here about 1 hour every other day.

I usually start with people I actually know personally. Then build a wave. I have a generalized greeting I usually use, something to the effect of "Hey, don't think I know you personally, but facebook seems to think we've got some friends in common… just trying to meet knew people… how do you know ___________? Hit me back!" the blank is the friend you have in common with that person. Another important point Use that greeting I just gave you (or something more adapted to your personality… it's important to be genuine in the "personalized message" portion of the "add as friend" tool. When you go to friend finder, it pulls up the list of "People you May Know"… click the "Add as friend" link below someone's face, and the smaller screen that pops up gives you the option to include a personalized message, as well as a link to show you which friends you and that person share in common. Figure out one of those friends that you know somewhat well, and use that in the blank in the message I gave you. This both A displays to them that you DO indirectly know them, so they're comfortable adding you as a friend, and B Leaves them an open question that they'll feel inclined to answer. For example "How do you know Betty? Hit me back!" And they can't respond with a yes or no. It's most likely "Oh, we went to high school together"… and you've just started a conversation! "Really? What year did you graduate? I went to _______ high school… did you know anyone there?"

Wonderful way to get things started!

This then also grows your network… each friend you add will increase the number of listings in the "People you May Know" tool, and you can copy and past the personalized message from above and just fill in the appropriate name for each person you add.

As far as organizing (sorry, you're Aussie… "organising" lol just giving you a trouble your efforts go, there are a few steps I'd recommend.

1 Dedicate a set time period, the same time every day. i.e., either "8AM9AM" or if it works better for you "every morning for an hour before I leave for work". This builds the HABIT of getting your networking done first thing in the AM, so people have all day to respond. Once things start getting really moving, you can segregate that off so that in the morning you send out friend requests and in the evening you respond to conversations with current friends, however you see fit to do it, but BUILD THE HABIT… you WILL fall out of it for a few days if you don't, and it's easy to get overwhelmed that way if you're having any success.

2 Make sure you ARE working it in those "waves"…
A Send out all your friend requests at a time, so you can copy pasting,
saving yourself COUNTLESS hours of unnecessary typing.
B Answer all your responses at the same time, and always make sure to include questions to keep the conversation from dying. It's a good way for people to come to know your personality, which is important for building relationships, and that's how you protect your market and keep it from going cold. MAKE SURE that at some point you ask them about their work, and don't be afraid to probe into it in depth. Eventually they'll be naturally inclined to ask you about yours, and THAT is the FIRST TIME it's appropriate to mention what you do and whatever your product or service is, as any mention prior will turn them off and label you as an emarketer. Your doors will close pretty quickly then.

…And finally, I'd highly recommend you look at it as a hobby. Don't view it as your primary means of networking, or of advertising, as it will become VERY unnerving after a while waiting for people to respond, or if you actually pay attention to contacttoresponse ratios. You may feel like you're failing if you do. If, however, you treat it as a hobby that may, as a BONUS, result in leads, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised at your results.

Hope that helped, and feel free to hit me back with any questions!

Best of luck to you in the meantime, and… well… Cheers? ;
David

Very good suggestions and advice David…I'm sure others will use them as well.
Deb

You should also check out www.micromagnate.com
This is a social networking site that is specific for small business, easy to use.

Hi David,

Well thank you! so much info and all great, thanks for putting in alot of time to do that, much appreciated
I like the 'no telling them what i do until they ask' concept, it's so true that it turns people off, and of course viewing the entire task "as a hobby" it takes the pressure off.
Cheers (very english sign off word
Suzy

Thanks for that Jason I'm checking it out now! Is it easier to use than ecademy?
Cheers
Suzy

Yeah, no doubt, David.. Thanks a bunch for those pointers!

Hi David,

Thanks a lot for taking the time to give very good suggestion
for networking. Really appreciate it. Have a nice day

Warm regards
HG

Hi Suzy,
Truthfully I'm not familiar with that one (ecademy, but it is easy to set up and use.

These tips might help you as far as using Facebook.

http//www.ehow.com/how_4534857_usefacebookbusinessnetworking.html

your feed back was so great! this is all new to me. Trying to use social media to promote my husbands new product. http//www.calibowl.com

Wow! lol I knew I was good, but my head's swelling far too quickly! Thanks for the feedback, guys! I was just excited to see a conversation that was a real conversation and not just an infomercial! lol

If anyone wants to chat more, feel free to add me… just mention in your request where you found me… far too many spammers around here these days! I'm always up for chatting business though! I'd love to hear any ideas anyone else has!

P.S. Missy, your husband's idea is flipping GENIUS! That is SO simple and SO brilliant! It's perfect! I seriously may buy a stack of them for my next party! That's absurd that no one produced one prior! lol

Is he working to pair up with larger distributors? To be honest, it's one of those gadgets I know HUNDREDS if not THOUSANDS would buy if they saw it at Walmart or Target or something… is he pushing that end?

You are not alone!
I found some usefull information at http//eirenehofstetter.weebly.com

To your success
Kon

MoveOn to Facebook We caught you redhanded
http//www.news.com/830113577_3982306336.html?tag=repblg

Turns out Facebook HAD a global optout option right up until they launched Beacon, they proactively decided to make it tougher for users to opt out.

Discuss…

wow.

It doesn't surprise me. I find it hard to believe they sat around in the board meeting and didn't at least entertain the possibility that users may not "what to take advantage" of beacon.

Though, I'm sure exactly what made them think users would just "accept this" without a word. My guess, is they are expecting us to protest it for a little bit in hopes we will eventually settle down and accept it.

Yeah they should have expected this. Even those who love Facebook don't want their privacy breached.

Zuckerberg built Facebook on data theft from the very start

http//www.fastcompany.com/magazine/115/open_featureshackerdropoutceo_3.html

This guy has no principles at all. If I'd known about this at the time, I'd never have joined Facebook.

thoughts?

Are you referring to the lawsuit mentioned at the very top of that page? If so, I'm not so sure. I've read a number of articles about that over the past year and it's not clear whose claims are right. I wouldn't present it as a factual criticism of Zuckerberg.

I'm not surprised either, but it's awesome that they found this screenshot.

Some people need to get fired over this. I still have faith that Facebook is *mostly* run by good people, but they are not handling this well if their current defense includes saying they "changed" Beacon by adding a feature that it had in the first place.

No as the article I link to describes I'm replying to his hacking into the Harvard student database, from which he stole data in order to run the Facebook prototype. There is no argument about the facts in that case.

Oh! You're talking about something on page 1 of the article, but you posted a link to page 3. I thought because you posted a link specifically to page 3 that meant you were referring to something on page 3 so I hadn't read the whole article. Now that I go back and start at the beginning I see what you're referring to.

I don't have the same reaction as you do to it, particularly since he was at the beginning of his second year of college and plenty of people I know have done much stupider & worse things around that time of their lives, and it looks like he apologized and then took his motivation in a constructive direction. I'm also familiar with the intransigent Harvard bureacracy, and the temptation people have to show them they can do something they keep brushing off as impossible when it's clearly not.

From what I can tell, both spellings of Ann/Anne are fairly common, so I am never surprised when people ask me if I spell my name "with an E", (and I tell them "with no 'E'".
It's just annoying when I sign my name on things like emails, and still get replies with my name misspelled. Or sometimes I'm disappointed to get notes from my friends who spell my name wrong.
And for some reason Fiegen always ends up FiegAn, or FEIgen. *sigh*

The second half of my middle name is Anne.

I work with an Ann and an Anne in the same team!

Good story When I was born my parents gave me the middle name Anne. Well on my birth certificate it is spelt Ann. On my license my middle name is with an E and well I recently went out of the country and I had to change every documentation that had my middle name with an E because if something would have happened I could have benn charged with a fake identity. haha.
Maybe it's not funny?
I thought so.
=

I have been dealing with my name for ever since I can remember…Like Anne of Green Gables, my name is Anne with an "E"

My middle name is Ann No 'E'.
But, when I told my Boyfriend, he didn't believe me and said that it was strange.
Now, I can prove that is is not uncommon to not have an E.

Although, I must admit… When I decided to type this reply I did have to check my birth certificate to make sure my middle name is Ann, not Anne.

Well try a first name of Annehow annoyingand like the last person said (sorry can't remember name people still spell it whatever way they like even if i've told them. In fact loads of people have it as their middle name so I just get it spelt whichever way is their way of spelling itmore often than not without an E! Ahhhhhhhh!

My middle name is Anne and I say , when asked Ann with an E. then people (bless them spell it Annwithanie. I just look and wait for light to dawn and revel in their embarrasment.

oh wow…they actually spell it like that?

My first name is ShellyAnne, both my sisters have 'Anne' as part of their first names as well….we've always, and i mean always had to tell people it's Anne WITH AN E…
Even after i spell it out, AND write it down for someone they still put Ann without the E.

Gets annoying

I hate it when people leave off the "e"!
I worked with an Ann…so she became "Noee" and I became "Withanee"

People leaving off the "e" in my name and mistakening my name for "Anna" are one of my greatest pet peeves. At one point I was introducing myself as "Anne with an e." I think it's silly when they hear "Anne" but still write down "Anna." And I don't understand why people are always more likely to think it's "Ann" instead of "Anne" if "Ann" really isn't more commonly used. I don't mind "Annie" though… When people see the name "Anne" are they more likely to pronounce it like "Ann" or like "Annie"?

I think it is weird how everyone with an E has problems with peole missing off the E, and all the "NoE's" have their E's taken away…

I would have thought it would be one or the other…

I'm not too fussed though, to be honest. I would probable mind more if it was my first/ part of my first name.

x

My second middle name is Ann my first middle name is Sally and trying to explain they're not hyphenated and then that Ann has no 'E' is always fun..oh yeah, and I lived in Ann Road!

I'm a reporter and just this week I interviewed Georgeanne… with an E. And my coworker interviewed a George Ann, no E no hyphen either. same week, unrelated articles. Go figure.

I've just gotten used to asking everyone to spell their names, even if it sounds like John Smith. Spelling it back helps too!

And…Let's not forget the ever raging Sara v Sarah debate…

and here in the South, there are names that really don't usually have Es with themBettye or Ginnye I'm not kidding.

I should be thankful if someone hears my name and asks "Is that with a J or a G?" because they're miles closer than what I usually get.

All the time I get "Ann" or "Anna". SO annoying. But I answer to both Anne and Anna. IT just saves headaches that way.

My name is Anna and I always have to spell it out for people, and I ALWAYS get called Anne, or people write Anne in emails. I once worked for a lady that mispronounced Anna (Anna and said it like AHNna.
One of my nicknames is Annie though, which I actually don't mind. That's a bit off topic, but I understand the whole Ann/Anne thing.

Slightly off topic, but I often get, "Oh, is that short for Anne?" No… it's another diminutive of Hannah, like Anne/Ann and even Nancy, but not the same.

Always Anne.
No buts!

My middle name is Anne, after my Nana who's middle name was Ann but liked the name better spelled with an "e." One time when I was younger I was writing down contact info for someone named Anne, and when I went to write their name they said it's "Anne with an 'e'" which totally confused me because at the time it never even occurred to me that they might spell their name without an "e."

Ann and Anne have different pronunciations in Geman. So they shouldn't be hard to confuzzle with. Ann is Just… Ann. In German, Anne is like well AnnE you pronounce the E.
Also with the whole Ana/Anna. Anna you kind of hold the N for a while, while with Ana you don't.

My middle name is Ann but people always spell it Anne.
I think if they ask, 'With an 'e'?' it just makes them more likely to put an 'e' where it is not wanted!
And if they don't ask, I usually find they've put one anyway!

In Domino's I'm 'O neill'. it just halts the possibility of yet another CRAP joke being laughed down the phone at me by a stranger

I only ever semm to get take aways when im with my girlfriend, so i just use her name.

"Name please"
"Becky"
"pardon?"
"Becky…"

What a great idea!

I always use my friend's name (nice, normal Emma when ordering a take out because it just saves having to repeat my name several times, spell it out and STILL get just a string of randomly put together letters on the receipt!

I always order takeout using a name from the country that the takeout is from. they never spit in your food if you do that. e.g. indian = Anil Chakrabharty, Chinese = Alex Lo.

gets it delivered faster too.

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When I order TakeAway I use a pseudonym it saves the bother of correcting them 4 or 5 times. I don't know how many times I've had to spell my name in clubs or bars or just for a simple TakeAway meal.

me too, for booking Restaurant, I use my Aunty's name because I can't stand her but she has an easy 4 letters name. ;

This is great

I use my boyfriends name, nice & easy Pete!

Typically I use someone else in the room name. After realizing that all of us were not anglo… we went with John Smith.

I've been known to use "tom" at those coffee or juice bars where they write your name on the cup. Otherwise, they ask how to spell it, I have to spell it out, and then the poor sod who calls the names has to work out how to pronounce it. I save 3 people time and effort by a small lie. I am not 100% sure how my conscience feels about that!

I shorten my name to Kari because I can't be bothered to spell and repeat my name several times and go through the same thing when I pick up my order. Then someone I'm with always has to ask if I'm ashamed of my name. Of course not! I just don't have the patience.

this is the funniest and cleverest thing ive heard in ages. you've just made my day.

I jus usually go for Dee or Dina, but like most of the time I use my moms name, since its easier, and I dont have to keep on spelling it out for them.

I just use Chris Chan, saves me a lot of aggravation and the trouble of repeating myself just to have them get it wrong anyway

I like the idea of choosing a different ethnicity for the cuisine you're ordering ie Chinese, Indian etc. Might try that…

Starbucks and Jamba Juice and even Tully's know me as "Molly". Since when was ALICE so difficult to get?!

I just tell them the name is Morgan. I also tell taxi dispatchers that my name is Morgan. It's easier than having them get confused as to whether I'm Carrie, Kitty, Karen, Cara, or Kita WTF.

Mine is Sarah! lol

having to spell my name out to everyone is a pain in the ass! taxi services, takeaway, leaving messages for people.

people call me fran but even when i say that on the phone i get called Sam lol

Yeah i always get my boyfriend to order food/taxis/hotels etc to avoid the spelling of my riduculously long name. The only trouble in that his surname is Shermer which always leads to a "oh, Sherman", "No, ShermER, with an ER" type conversation. I think he's lucky that he only has to spell 2 letters!

That's really smart, using a fake name. I'll have to start doing that! I absolutely hate spelling out my whole name (KarlJohan Leuchowius, especially on the phone..

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I love using a fake name for ordering takeout…
Lots of times I use the name of a fictional character that could easily be a name in real life.

Lily Evans
Evey Hammond
Elizabeth Swann
etc.

I'm in a pretty unique position of having a name that consistently breaks computer systems many web sites and other programmes take one look at my surname and say "No, we want you to enter your full surname, not just an initial." Umm, that IS my full surname. One company I deal with has me as "Qi" so that their computers can cope. Another has me as "Qq".

Does anybody else have a name that causes them problems on databases? Perhaps you've got a really long name that won't fit into text boxes? Or you've got apostrophes or accents in your name and computers complain? Maybe, just maybe, you've got a singleletter name, like me (there are others!?

I know what you mean; when I enter "Seán" in to some websites it either changes it to "Sen" or else tells me to only use letters! That's the way my name is spelt, if it wasn't for the accent it'd be pronounced "Seen"!

This isn't my name, but it was about my mums. She was Dr Tessa (Tessa was her first name, finlayson her last, but she constantly had problems with filling in registration forms for anything medical related. She'd often get stuck with Dr Tessa tessa, or Dr Finlayson Tessa. Stupid forms.

Lol! When I went to Kenya there was a boy called Sean and everyone called him Seen!

http//www.xkcd.com/327/

The spaces in my name broke the peoplemanaging software at school, and Centrelink (Australia's social security type otufit insisted on sending letters to "Dear Miss Van" because their program couldn't handle the spaces even after I complained that consistently getting a name wrong like that could be construed as racism. Facebook insists on inserting extra capitals.

And those forms where there's a little space for every letter? They NEVER have the 15 spaces my surname needs…

My middle name has Ç , I cant never type it because the computers dont accept it… my name is Everson Mendonça de Araujo

The computer always tells me I spell my first name wrong.

(Kalli did you mean Callie?

I finally added it to the dictionary in microsoft word so my computer wouldn't yell at me all the time.

Well, what do you think about mine wrzeszcz?
I know, it makes some peolple cry

Well, that's a classic, systems insisting in only using ASCII characters… it should be forbidden and seen as racism P

My name is Pauli Østerø, and too often it has to be changed to like Oesteroe. Its typical American, to be so closed minded instead of just accepting Unicode characters which include every letter in the world.

Well Pauli, I agree with every word you wrote… Internet made by american for americans….

p

Spellcheckers everywhere insist my name is Rhino.

Ok, I might be getting a bit on the large side but….

Haha, spell check is the worst

@Miro
"Wrzeszcz"? Is that your middle name or something? Cos it's also a district in my home town ;

spell check thinks my name is Alan Thursday P

No one mispronounces my name unless it's on purpose.

My name is spelt Elkë (which is done by holding the ALT key and pressing 0235 and it doesn't matter what site i use it on it always turns into my nae being wrote as Elk@&*#

God it annoys me lol! I usually end up yelling at the screen 'just because i'm different' lol

Yep, when people try to look me up in the company phone directory, it comes back with an error message ' you have only entered three letters. Please enter the whole surname, or more letters, to narrow down the search results.'

If they put a space after the name, it doesn't find me at all. If they put a star behind the name, it throws back at least two hundred other people with names don't have anything to do with me.

For Pete's sake, there are only three people in the directory with the same surname, me, my husband, and my brotherinlaw. And what do they mean with 'please type the whole surname'? Isn't it a bit rude to assume that everybody's surname has more than three letters?

lol really? thats funny

lol I feel your pain, Jodie … at least I only have the "de" to cope with. The "van" names always remind me of a street here in Victoria (B.C., Canada called van Alman, but the sign says "Vanalman" … shitty for Mr (or Mrs. van Alman after whom it must have been named, but fun to mispronounce when you pass it.

Whenever it's a legal document I have to put my full name down that's a big fat 42 letters and you know there isn't room for all of that!
DVLA took my first name and my last name then plucked a random one out of the middle!

Ulrike

That's an impressive bit of crap design you unearthed….especially as the top 20 surnames in Australia include Lee!

Could we have a quick vote on 25, and whether it should be removed or not?

I don't want to get reported for being homophobic, but on the other hand i'm not some namby pamby whinging politically correct type of guy…

It was just something that I noticed when it happened, like the rest of the things i've written, a lot of the time.

Everyones views?

nah man i dnt think it is homophobic but its tru cuz u dont reali wanna think of 2 blokes gettin it on reali

Yeah it is…but I don't care cause it's true

fuck it then, i guess many things that are funny, are racist, sexist, fatist (no, i think you find you're fattest lol jimmy carr fans will understand that one etc but if they're true then noone cares! thank fuck

what what, erm i havent got a clu what ya going on about and y is no 25 gay >?

Neil honey, take a peek at the list on the homepage, esp number 25 ;

all should become clear

and no, I don't think it's homophobic… it's sad that people do feel uncomfortable about such things though.

IS IT ANY OF OUR BUSSINES WHAT THEY DO IN THERE BEDROOM

i just find it funny how people are soo sad and should get with the times

just to let you know your managers are on facebook no doubt so please becareful on what you put on face book as you may find your self in the office and we dont want that

Yes, actually. Noticing is one thing. But "not making eye contact or conversation"? One, that goes against our role as cashier. But moreso, it shows that anyone who does that is treating someone as a lesser human being just for being gay.

erm dear god kate, i dont have toiem for all that Mumbo Jumbo tbh We are all individuals and its essential that we all treat each other with respect no mater what gender or preferance ypou have……….. within your own home you can be whatever you want to be but in a work environment you should be able to be who u are but respect that others havea diffent view and moderate your behavious in that respect………

rant rant ……… Will now look at item 25 qnd see if i can make any sence of this thread at all

It is important to realise that others have their opinions and views and that we too should have tolerance.

I agree with the earlier post that said not making eye contact or conversation with obviously homosexual people is certainly wrong. If you did that to a disabled person then I'm sure you wouldn't get away with it.

quite darling but then if you think about it some ppl are of a diferent generation, tolelreance etc etc can be expected but should also be ernt X